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By Bo Perrin

Since the beginning, whatever that beginning might be, men have been asking and seeking answers to questions that revolve around being a man. But this is the wrong place to start. The right place to start is asking, what does it mean to be a male? God made Adam. But before God named his new creation and that creation began to assume the roles which God expected of it, that new creation was nothing but a male by definition. Before there was Adam, there was simply male.

Being a man is only one role which the male is expected to be Biblically. Generally, Christians have either skipped this investigation or confused the issue(s) by combing unnecessarily and unbiblically the various roles the male is to adopt. Being a man differs from being a husband or father and yet overlaps all other roles.

The questions, What does it mean for a male to be a man? and What does it mean to be good at being a man? are multifaceted and do not lend themselves easily to a single answer. Rather, the examination of these questions usually raises more questions. God created both the male and female as multifaceted beings which is why it seems it is so difficult for each to understand the other.

In our modern era, the question, What does it mean for male to be a man? is being hijacked by those who do not have the desire to truly understand the question nor look for the proper answers but are always ready to impose a foreign ideal on the subject. Of course, I speak of feminists and their allies.

Feminism does not have and can never have the answer for at least two reasons. Feminists love to impose feminine qualities on the male gender violating our physical creation. To impose feminine qualities on a male is akin to putting a Volkswagen engine into a Ferrari. The purpose of feminism is to control the male. The first act of feminism lead to Adam and Eve being kicked out of the garden. Adam’s first sin was not eating the fruit.

And he said to the man, “Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘Do not eat from it’: The ground is cursed because of you. You will eat from it by means of painful labor all the days of your life. (Genesis 3:17)

By listening to his wife, Adam permitted the social and authoritative structure God created to be turned upside down leading to both being expelled from the garden.

Also, feminists seem incapable of understanding what it means for male to be a man among men. The most honored man in the Old Testament is almost always a warrior who had achieved something great as he fought against or with other men. God honors the male who is a man among men not a male who is attempting to be a man among women.

And after him was Eleazar the son of Dodo, the Ahohite, one of the three mighty men with David when they defied the Philistines who were gathered there for battle, and the men of Israel had retreated. (2 Samuel 23:9)

This is repeated numerous times in the books of Judges, Kings, Samuel and Chronicles. The status of the manliness of a man was determined by his prowess as a warrior as compared to other men. The Bible never compares the manliness of a male to that of a woman because there is no comparison.

To properly answer the above questions, each male among us must understand to what a man is to be properly contrasted. We are looking for answers that will help us understand what it is that makes a male a man. To do this we must contrast a man with a child and with other men.

The Child verses the Man

Each man begins life as a child but is expected socially and Biblically to grow into a number of different roles including being a man. The apostle Paul stated, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (1 Corinthians 13:11)

A child is fearful, physically weak, often disrespectful and ignorant. A child is also dependent on others, immature and whines.  If that is not enough a child can be pushed around, cannot provide for others and is nearly incapable of protecting others.

A man who is manly is rarely frightened of facing the perimeter. He sees life as a challenge. Such a man is not physically weak but strong enough to use the tools of his trade. Of course, dependency is a reality of life, but over-dependency is fatal to being a man because dependency can lead to slavery. This is especially true to be overly dependent on a female.

The manly man, does not permit himself to be pushed around. He stands his ground when that grounds needs to be protected. Additionally, God created the male to grow into a man who was capable of protecting others especially his family and to provide for them. A true man, a real man, a manly man leaves childhood behind as soon as possible.

The Man and Other Men

A man is expected to walk as a man among other men not women. In the Bible and ancient cultures the real man walked the perimeter and provided (hunted) for his family. The perimeter, no matter what the perimeter might be, is a place of danger.

Generally, the perimeter is occupied by more than one man. Each of those men not only must be someone the others can rely upon but must also rely on the others. These men must meet certain requirements, requirements which make the male not only manly but a warrior.

A warrior must be honorable. Honor is reputation. Integrity is private honor and is not subject to another man’s acknowledgement. Public honor is the other men in your group openly acknowledging your reputation in this case, your reputation that you can be trusted to walk the perimeter.

A warrior must have courage. Courage is about bravery and cowardice. When you are walking the perimeter, you will have to face many dangers. The danger might be a wild animal or another human bent on killing you. Do you have the courage to kill or will you run?

A warrior must be valiant. Valor seems to refer to internal strength or the strength of heart to face an unpleasant situation as a male who is a man. As a warrior there are many unpleasant situations you will face like walking the perimeter. In walking the perimeter, you might have to kill or be killed. Do you possess the valor to walk the perimeter?

A warrior must be strong. In this case, strength is about bulging muscles or how much a person can bench press. Rather, strength is but muscularity and movement. A strong warrior will weld the tools of his trade in a conflict moving appropriately. Are you strong enough to walk the perimeter?

A warrior must master of the tools of his trade. The wild animal or the warrior that is being faced will have mastered their tools of combat. Survival demands mastery. Mastery demands single-minded devotion, expenditure of time, pain and a lot of practice. Have you mastered the tools necessary to walk the perimeter?

The above answers are only a beginning nevertheless, for a male to be a man he must stop acting childish and strive to be honorable, valiant, strong and a master of the tools of his trade.

Otherwise, unless extenuating circumstances exist, he is a male but is not to be considered a man. Manliness is not a birthright but achieved by a male’s actions.